Who Jack Neo jumps is none of our business
Wednesday, March 10, 2010 at 10:23AM So Jack Neo had a 2-year affair with a freelance model. Yes, he's famous, he is a grassroots leader for the PAP, and he was awarded the PBM and the Cultural Medal before. But does that merit a public defense from a Minister? Or the full glare of the media, both traditional and new? Why and how is this news of national import?
The answer is that it isn't. What happens between two willing adults is really none of our business. I would be more interested if Wendy Chong, Neo's mistress, was a signed artiste in Neo's company, since that would constitute sexual harassment, but this is not true. So what's the fuss about?
And while I understand the need for personal friends to support each other, George Yeo should be mindful that his very public position as a cabinet minister means his words have weight, and consequences. Lend your support privately, but speaking out publicly is just stupid.
We have allowed this silly story to distract us from more important issues, and that is a shame. We have PAP MPs boasting about firing old Singaporean workers and replacing them with young foreigners, proudly proclaiming they are deaf to all criticism, rejecting any idea from the opposition as "dangerous", insisting that public housing is affordable without providing the metrics of measurement, a Deputy Prime Minister who naps in Parliament while the other DPM speaks, and these people will be averaging an 8.8% pay raise this year.
All stories deserving of more play and coverage in the press. Even Temasek Review is covering this, tabloid-style, and I am sorely disappointed by that, given its roots as Wayang Party.
Time to move along, and I say again, this is none of our damned business.
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Piping good n well said. There is no perfect man.
Good post Callan! *thUmBs UP!
it's a woman's issue, not man.
@woman: Care to elaborate on that? Personally, it's no one else's issue but Jack Neo, his wife, his mistress and their families. This is nothing but a distraction and not even entertaining unless you like a dose of schadenfreude for entertainment.
men will be men, they will screw if the opportunity arises. it seems that they are happier if they are allowed to have sex with any willing women. some women are like that too but in a conservative society, the women are more repressed and the number of fewer than men.
having said that, we are living in a conservative society or our values have been religiously influenced. women, and men too, have indoctrinated to condemn infidelity. however,men are less hypocritical about infidelity or being" unfaithful" where sex is concern. men can be sexual with any women and still be committed to one woman.but the reverse may not be true or mostly women will not tolerate their man sexcapades.
so my final analysis is, minus religious interference through moralistic laws, men will be happy to be men. women cannot be the same and thus, it is a women's issue to protect their rights and interests(some may call it selfishness)
quote from NP today.( a ms divorce lawyer response to mdn kng liberal view of her husband's infidelity)
she said: what is the message?you can't expect fidelity? that's definitely sending the WRONG MESSAGE TO WOMEN - that you will have to live with it(infidelity)
unquote
i rest my case!
That is a fatalistic view of things. I take issue with your "minus religious interference through moralistic laws, men will be happy to be men" statement; my view that staying committed in one relationship is not influenced by religion or moralistic laws. I also think that we should be past the stage where our hormones dictate our actions and blame it on our genetic makeup.
It is however, in everyone's genetic makeup to protect their own interests, men and women. To say that it is a women's issue is over-simplification, and to say men will stray because that's what we do is stereotyping.
I will agree that Mdm Kng has sent the wrong message to other women, but stand by my view that this whole sordid affair remains none of our business.
you don't have to believe me. you need to go out and see the real world for what it is. and there are studies and findings to affirm my position too. try.googling.. jack's wife also said..all men are the same..
i rest my case again.
Excuse me....please examine all the information and facts.
Mr Jack Neo has been shafting/sexual harrassing 16 - 20 years old girls for many years...and you say it is ok?
Please go to yahoo/google and check out the behavourial characteristic of a SEX PREDATOR...and ask yourself....is it truely ok?
What if years down the road, one of your niece or friend's daughter underwent Mr Jack Neo "mentoring" to get into his movies...what then...the girl's fault...or the one who is abusing his position to gain favors!!
Please think it over and ask yourself it is really ok to let the deviant off so easily.
...another thing...
George Yeo pull Mr Jack Neo into the PAP party....can you imagine a SEX MANIAC as your MP years from now!
And using his new found status/power to "gently persuade" 16 - 20 years old girls he identified as EASY and WEAK targets to shaft further.
And his wife is a joke...she has know he has been doing this for many years...and people say we should support her? How about all those other girls who did not speak out of shame after undergoing Mr Jack Neo mentoring...
Further...his close associates in his entertainent company knows and can see what is happening...but they did not protect the young artisits...what is this?
Are we animals so it is ok to let Jack Neo the deviant off or human beings who should make Jack Neo accountable for the many wrong he has done.
One more item to chew over.
tham, try removing this " religious inhibition". i can tell you all "hell" will break lose and why? the choice is obvious!
you deny?
@woman: You believe what you want to. I'm atheist and my principles are not religiously motivated. I don't need a religion to keep myself in check. Some probably do, but please do not paint with broad brushstrokes. Even with your studies, I can easily disprove your claim that all men are the same with just one example of a faithfully married man. Stereotypes do not help this discussion here, if that is your intent.
@Kute: You've lost me. Are you saying I wrote it is ok to have affairs or were you responding to "woman"? If the former, then you misunderstood my point. Whatever happens in the bedroom between two consenting adults is none of our business. I did not however condone extra-marital affairs or sexual harassment. This is based on the assumption that this is not a case of sexual harassment or that Jack Neo was bedding minors.
I would like you to present evidence of Jack Neo's history of sexual harassment to substantiate your point.
doesn't matter what your beliefs are. if tomorrow, everyone says the choice is yours, you can choose to commit infidelity and you can choose not to. there shall be no condemnation.- not from men and certainly not from women.
tell me honestly, what do you think we happen?
@woman: There will be men who will commit adultery and there will be men who won't. How that fits into your view that "all hell will break loose", you will have to enlighten me. It is obvious that you believe all men will commit adultery if given the chance; I can tell you many men will not, regardless of religion or the lack thereof.
I also don't appreciate the overtly-religious undertones in your posts and then telling me "it doesn't matter what your beliefs are".
I totally agree with you, Callan.
Did Obama say anything during the Tiger Woods issue?.
religious is because that's the religious position( all major religion condemns adultery)
if there is no condemnation, what will YOU do?
why don't you put on record what you will do? while you are at it, give us a complete profile of yourself such as, age, marital status etc.
and shawn, what do you agree with tham? put on record pls
It is all over the MSM...
Today, New Paper and Strait Times.
2 or is it 3 days ago...on the Straits Time life back page...we have George Yeo asking singaporeans to rally around Jack Neo.
The past 3 days....the New Paper on its front page show the ladies stepping forward to attest and show Jack Neo's character.
Yesterday was a french lady who was "sexually" harrassed by Jack Neo while working on a film with him when she is aged 16!
I don't think i need to add on more.
I believe there are more young gals out there but many of them are too ashamed to step forward.
Jack Neo has finally and truely made Singapore and Singaporeans a laughing stock in this part of the world especially if he gets away scots-free!!!
@woman: I'm not sure how I can be any clearer: I do not need the bounds of religion to tell me it is wrong to be unfaithful to my wife. I am not affected by religious judgment nor do I fear moralistic backlash. I think extra-marital affairs are wrong, and I won't do it. Clear enough?
Whatever I am comfortable with revealing is in the About section. I linked my Twitter and Facebook accounts. Feel free to profile me from those avenues.
@Kute: Again, I'm curious how you read my post as an approval of Jack Neo's affairs. What I am saying is simple: it is still none of our business. Should there be enough evidence to prosecute him for sexual harassment, the police will handle it, and it is still none of our business.
You are also presuming that Jack Neo will be running for election; after this little episode, I'm pretty sure the PAP will avoid fielding him as a candidate. Let's not presume, and deal with it as and when it happens.
Just to be clear, this would be legitimate news if it involved sexual harassment, which up until now is hearsay. I also do not approve of any elected official weighing in on another adults personal matters, even if/when it becomes a law enforcement issue.
your wife is lucky. good luck (btw, i am non religious too)
@woman: If you are non-religious, why bring up religion unless you're trolling? And luck has nothing to do with it, just lots of management.
"I would like you to present evidence of Jack Neo's history of sexual harassment to substantiate your point."
@Kute should substatiate before making such statements. You know a slut when you see one.. and obviously Wendy is one, getting involved with a married man with no qualms, and says she love him, m,ore like lover him for his fame and money? then go confront the wife? what is hse expecting that JN will leave his family for her, and then telling stories of how many times she is f..king JN? for goodness sake, has she no decency.. a slut probably oes not have any
"why don't you put on record what you will do? while you are at it, give us a complete profile of yourself such as, age, marital status etc." @woman - why in the world should Callan put on record what he will do? what he will or will not do is none of anybody's biz like what JN does.
Never cease to amaze me when ever something like that happen the women wants to put all the blame onto the man in this case Jack Neo.
The grils are willing to "give" their bodies to get ahead and when they dont succeed, they use "blackmail". It was not rape but it was a willing transaction for the prize of getting a better, bigger part in his movie. So when you fail dont scream that it is unfair! What is unfair is that the girls are willing to go to the extend to destroy Jack and his family. Women can be just that vicious.
@opne eyes: She did not say it was rape. Nor did she put all the blame on Neo. The society at large put the blame on Neo, which he deserved. While you would like to say that Wendy Chong should bear her share of responsibility, your statement that this is unfair and that she is going to destroy Neo's family is moot: it takes two to tango, and both were willing parties.
Don't pin the blame on Wendy Chong alone, because both of them did something stupid, and Neo being the married man that he is went in in the full knowledge that this will cost him dearly. In my book that makes him the more stupid of the two. Try to be more objective, "Women can be that vicious" is a slight I will leave as a record of your one-sided views.